Dealing with 'Anger'

I was sitting on a little wooden chair in the living room, my eyes fixed to the television set, my fingers skillfully pushing the buttons of the remote control, when I saw an envelope which says, 'To: Ng family' resting on the table, I picked up the envelope curiously, opened the envelope and quickly glanced through the few pieces of papers, it's not written by hand, rather, its photocopied, its from my sister, now in L.A...

The following is something from the mail that I would like to share with all..

'Dealing with Anger'

'Anger. The very word makes us pause. Yet to be human is to know anger. Anger helps us to defend our rights and protect our freedoms - as individuals and as a society. For all the positive aspects of anger, though, we only know only too well the destructive forms it can also take: physical and emotional violence, depression, even illness'

'We face the challenge of harnessing the energy of anger without ruining our relationships, our health, and - in some cases - our very lives. To do this, we need to understand what anger is. Many people confuse anger with aggression. But anger is not aggression. An anger is something we feel; aggression is something we do. As an emotion, anger can be expressed in many ways, contructively or destructively.'
words of, Louisa Rogers

I used to be a very angry person, aggressive, the destrcutive-kind-when-angry kind of person. That made me a very very ungly person, thats my impression to a lot of people, some hated me, some was kind enough to forgive me for who I was. Over the years, I had learn a lot, through friends, readings, my thoughts... I tried hard to change myself, or to use a more appropriate word, to 'correct' my ways of expressing my anger, to become a better person...

I've been through some very stuggling time, I do not dare to say I have totally changed, some times, getting emotionally is inevitable, thats why I felt something when I read this article, something deep inside that I do not understand and do not know how to explain it, and that something made me wanna share it with you all.

Anger is a tool that promotes understanding and healthy change in our relationships, use it wisely, ok?

Time for Everything

It is a festive season, Christmas just went by... so quickly, indeed, so quickly... So did you guys have a beautiful Christmas? Hope its really wonderful...

But, while celebrating Christmas, there is one thing all must bare in mind, Christmas is not all about giving out or receiving presents, it is a time to remember the born of Jesus Christ. (Suddenly I thought of a song,'Time Time Time', in the song, the lyric said, 'a time to love, a time to hate, a time to kill, a time to live...') guess there is really a time for everything huh...?

Have you ever wonder ten years later today, where will you be? what will you be doing? how much salary will you be earning annually? Will you wake up every morning on your bed, joyful? or, rather, sad?

As seen in the movie, and read in the book 'The Lord of The Rings' itself, Gandalf told Frodo, 'and so do all who lives to see such (Bad)times. But that is not for them to decide. All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given us.' ... True, true...

If there is really a time for everything, then I'd say, now is the time to have fun! after you read this, go do something for yourself, even if its just a five minutes rest from your work, or grab a chilled beer, what ever it is,
as long as it brings joy to your lips, and make it smile...

How are you?

I am sure all of you are familier with this phrase, 'How are you?', lately I have been asking a lot of my friends, How were they, and most of them replied me without any hesitation. Some said good, some said life sucks (coz of work or relation problems), but what I really meant was, hows your life, are you happy with it in general?

Maybe cause I am in the middle of a very long holiday, I am able to spent a whole day thinking, recaping my life, and think back what have I done in the near pass, the conclusion is - I am really happy with it.

Question: Why? what is it that I am so happy about?

Have had a harsh time starting from October til mid-November, because the semester was ending, and due dates for assignments were closing in, as well as final examination. I remember going back to my rented condominium in Kajang after class everyday, and throw all my unhappy thoughts and problems on my housemate, and she did the same. Life was stressful back then, but now that I think of it, its not the stress that counts, it is how we suffer through those days together, how we help each other out that counts.

Friend is my answer to the question.

My housemate as one example, I might not be able to go through my time so well without her, and I live a happy life, because I had heaps of friends like my housemate, I cherish your presents in my life.

So next time, when some one ask you, 'How are you?', dive into your own thoughts, give yourself a moment, and really think, before you give an answer..

Gravity, me and you...

Hey you ALL, if you are reading this now, means you are one of the most important people in my life... in here... I will do my best to share my thoughts, my life, my everything...

This is my first blog ever, is it common to feel nervours while writing your first blog? I wonder... The feeling is like the first time I drove a car, the first time I played a solo in front of a hall-full of audience with my silver-coated Yamaha trumpet, the first time I looked into a girl's eyes, and tell her how much I love her...

The name of my blog is shown up there, 'Gravity, me and you', I have been thinking for a long period, what should I name it, it started of by looking for names that are cool and jazzy, but then I thought, why not give it a name that is simple, but true, one of the main reason i dubbed this blog 'Gravity, me and you', is because I hope this blog would act like gravity, which pulls me and you together... cool huh?

Where did I get the idea of writing blogs online, you might ask, I was inspired by one of my elder brother's friend, Pauline, Paul in short, she is currently a user of www.blogger.com as well, and she invited me to read her blogs a few months ago, and that is when my interest on writing blogs started to grow... there is actually a few advantages... well, at least to me... First, as a chinese, a race that does not know how to really express themselves (deep-down-under) in public, or to another person face-to-face (have you ever had the experience where you want to say thank you to a person, just a sincere thank you, but you couldn't spell it out?), I think that having a place to share your own thoughts, and can be read conveniently by your friends and relatives is a good thing, Second, by writing more, I can improve my ability to handle english language, Third, I can write my thoughts rather than wondering in this virtual world doing unproductive things...

Its like a custom, the conversation will usually starts like this:
'hey...what are you doing?'
'doing nothing, just chatting... how about you?'
'I am not doing anything as well... so bored lar...'

and somehow, the conversation ends like this:
'so am I...'

If we all know that we don't really have a topic to chat about, then what's the point of chatting? Well, because human being is afraid of being alone, it is a basic instinct, that's why our ancestors started to live in crowds in the first place, that's why people wants to get married, that's why, Nokia is able to pop-up in the middle of no where and be a worldwide leader in communication products, that's is also why, I am sitting here, this very moment, writing this blog...

I hope that this blog can really help me to express my thoughts to all... even if it is merely a sincere 'thank you'...

Finally, 'thank you' all for stopping by, please do drop me a Comment, I'd appreciate it...

Me, Me, Me, and my slice of steak!

Ng Gee Xiang, a.k.a Isaac Ng. I am not a ver good looking guy, but I am tryin my very best to be a better person, mind to help..?